Couple’s Travel: Dos and Don’ts For Your First Trip TogetherCouples Travel — By Mary on March 29, 2012 at 3:11 pm
In preparation for our upcoming trip to Paris together, my boyfriend and I spent one January night watching Midnight in Paris. Since this was going to be my third trip to Paris, and his first, I took it upon myself to point out what every single sight in the opening montage was. When I was just about halfway through listing all of my favorite cafes, my boyfriend said, “I can’t wait until we travel someplace neither of us have been.” He had a point: I’d definitely acquired a ‘been there, done that’ attitude towards Paris, and was on the verge of becoming my least favorite type of travel companion—the Know-It-All. You know the type, the one who has been everywhere, knows everything about the place, and will loudly proclaim, “Only tourists do that!” when you mention something you want to see or do there. Here are a few of my suggestions for keeping a happy balance for that first trip together:
Don’t Play Tour Guide
I’m a planner. I can’t help it. I feel better when I have a time table in my head of the things I want to do and see. If it’s a place that I’ve traveled several times, I often feel like it’s my responsibility to show my travel partner a good time. When I travel with my boyfriend, I try to let go of my inner tour guide, and allow myself to relax and just enjoy the trip.
Do Be Flexible
As already discussed here on Lost Girls World, there are lots of different traveling styles. Be sure you both are willing to be flexible when it comes to how you both travel. If it’s your first big trip, it’s going to take a bit of time to adjust to each other’s traveling style.
Do Learn to Grin and Bear it Sometimes
As an experienced traveler, you might not want to see the Coliseum for the fifth time, but if it’s your partner’s first time in Rome, it’s probably on his bucket list of things to do while there. If it’s something you absolutely cannot bear to see again (ie. Lenin’s Tomb, once was enough for me), go find someplace to wander for a while on your own, and offer to meet up with your partner later after he’s had his fill of the sight.
Do Find Things that Are Brand New to Both of You
Eliminate the uneven experiences by finding places and sights that are new to both of you. Check out local blogs and travel websites for new art galleries, unique shows or events that both of you like. This way both of you get to experience something new together.
Don’t be Afraid to Use Your Knowledge
If you do know a lot about a city, use that knowledge to help make the trip go smoother. If your travel partner mentions a “great” café on main street that has a menu with lots of pictures and multiple languages, you should steer him towards a local café instead. At this point, you do have expertise in the city so use it to avoid tourist traps. Don’t be afraid to speak up if it means a more authentic experience.